The Beauty of ‘No’

Saying 'No' to someone, may be saying 'Yes' to yourself.

          Saying ‘No’ to someone may be saying ‘Yes’ to peace of mind.            (Photo: Moi!)

by Jackie

I envy toddlers and their ability to adamantly refuse to do anything that they don’t want to do. Somewhere between the age of two and this vague stage of adulthood, I’ve learned that ‘No’ is a bad word. Until recently, I’ve accepted every invitation, fulfilled every favor, and answered every call. Pretty soon, I found myself overwhelmed and overextended, with time set aside for everyone and everything except myself. Currently, in the process of unlearning this people-pleasing strategy, I came across a powerful piece of advice on Tumblr:

“Never again do anything you don’t want to do.”

This quote is now a part of my life and I use the phrase as a litmus test before making a decision to do anything, even things that I have to do. Not rushing to say ‘Yes’ to things means that I can prioritize obligations, organize my schedule, and reserve some time for myself.

I’ve been doing some research to gather more inspiration for this new ‘No’ way of life. Check out some helpful articles on the beauty of ‘No’:

 

 

 

Style File: Mother’s Day Brunch

by Sherria 

As Mother’s Day approaches, many are booking spa appointments, sending flowers or planning a brunch to show their mothers how much they appreciate everything that she’s done for them throughout the years. If you are having a hard time figuring out what to wear to any of the activities you have planned, then I suggest taking a dive into your closet now to figure it out before Sunday.

A silk shirt and a pair of brightly colored jeans or patterned pants is my top pick for this weekend. Whereas floral patterns were once an obvious choice for dresses and skirts, they are now being used for bottoms. I noticed the trend when celebrities such as Beyonce, Solange, and Katie Holmes were spotted wearing them. But, now they can be seen on the shelves of Forever 21, Macy’s, and Zara (for us common folk!). 

If you’d like to sport the trend, below are a few options.


Jersey jacket
$39 - selectfashion.co.uk

Adriana Voloshchuk flower print pants
$210 - wolfandbadger.com

White House Black Market dot jewelry
whitehouseblackmarket.com

Fornash pearl bangle
simplysoles.com

A*cute Picks: Met Gala 2013

by Jackie

Celebrities did their best or worst to embody the Met Gala 2013 theme: “PUNK: Chaos to Couture.” Here are the top looks of the night:

Actress Rooney Mara wins the red carpet  in Givenchy.

Actress Rooney Mara wins the night in Givenchy.

Jennifer Lopez stuns in a Michael Kors gown that fits perfectly in all of the right places. This hair fits the theme without being over-the-top.

Taylor Swift shows us that you don’t have to sacrifice glamour to be edgy in this J. Mendel cut-out dress.

A*cute Movies: The Great Gatsby

by Sherria

It’s coming! It’s coming! I’m so excited that The Great Gatsby’ is coming to movie theaters nationwide next Friday, May 10th. I’ve been dying to see this movie since last year!

Last night, stars of the film graciously walked the red carpet. I wish I could have been there. I’m in love with Leonardo DiCaprio. But, since I couldn’t make it (or wasn’t invited…sad face), below are a few websites that reported on the event.

‘The Great Gatsby” New York Movie Premiere 

The Great Gatsby

Website Roundup

StyleCaster: ‘The Great Gatsby” New York Premier: Red Carpet Recap

OK! Magazine: Red Carpet Fashion from “The Great Gatsby” Premiere

PopSugar: The Great Gatsby Gets A Star-Studded NYC Premiere

A*cute Celebrity Looks: Lala Anthony

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by Sherria

Get the Look

nordstrom 1

Lauren Ralph Lauren Chevron Sequin Sheath Petite (Nordstrom, sale $98.98)

nordstrom 2

Erin by Erin Fetherston Sequin Mesh Dress (Nordstrom, $350)

Inspiration

lala sequins

French connection
usa.frenchconnection.com

Jimmy choo pumps
net-a-porter.com

Snakeskin handbag
$20 - newlook.com

Kate spade earrings
lordandtaylor.com

Visit Paradise on a Budget

by Jackie

Treat yourself without cheating your budget. (Photo: Negril Treehouse Resort, by Almenia J. Photography.)

Treat yourself without cheating your budget. (Photo: Negril Treehouse Resort, by Almenia J. Photography.)

Vacations should relieve stress, not add to it, but paying for pricey flights and expensive hotels can seem more burdensome than the rat race that you’re trying to escape. Don’t let costs dissuade you from taking a much-needed break and going on an adventure.  By taking a few easy steps, you can have a sunny getaway without burning through your bank account.

1. Stalk deals.

The same strategy that you use to hunt down a pair of new pumps applies to vacation shopping — relentlessly pursue sales.  I have a bevy of travel apps downloaded to my phone that alert me to deals. Travelzoo, Airfarewatchdog, and Kayak are some of my faves. I also check Living Social Escapes and Groupon Getaways often. In addition to deep discounts, apps and sites like these can give you ideas for travel destinations that you may not have thought of otherwise.

2. Plan early.

While there a plenty of last-minute deals on hotels and even some on airfare, I’m too much of a scaredy-cat to leave my accommodations to chance. I may have an adventurous spirit, but I can’t take the anxiety of last-minute travel. I look for deals with long lead times to minimize blackout dates. Planning early also means that I have time to open and contribute to a dedicated vacation bank account to stash spending money for the trip. Months ahead of boarding my flight, I create a budget and start cutting down on superfluous spending. Skipping happy hours, packing brown bag lunches, and turning my bathroom into a salon means extra cash for fun in the sun.

3. Be flexible.

Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box. I got the idea to visit Negril, Jamaica on a random winter day scrolling through vacation deals. I was determined to find something, anything. I found an unbelievable deal at the Negril Treehouse Resort that I could not pass up. I did not set out to go to Jamaica. I set out to go to a beach — any beach — and it just so happens that the beach in Negril stretches across seven glorious miles. Don’t be discouraged if your trip dream trip to Saint-Tropez seems out of reach, check out Toronto in the meantime. Having an open mind gives you more options when it comes to traveling on a budget.

4. Give yourself an allowance.

I didn’t get an allowance as a child, I washed the dishes for free and cleaned my room because I was supposed to. As an adult,  I now see the value in setting aside small amounts of  money. Before you go on vacation, do some research and find out what you’ll need to spend daily. My latest vacation package included breakfast. I only needed to allot money for frozen cocktails and dinner each day (I usually don’t have time for lunch with all the napping I do on the sand). Because I planned early, I was able to research tours and activities and plan accordingly. Sticking to my daily budget  was actually a liberating experience because I did not have to worry about running out of money or using my credit card. Give yourself some emergency money, though. You never know what may happen.

5. Just Say ‘No’ to souvenirs.

You don’t need any souvenirs, nor do your family members, coworkers, or friends. Take pictures and savor the moment. Screen-print tees, shot glasses, and Wish-You-Were-Here picture frames usually end up as White Elephant gifts during the holidays (sorry, but it’s true). The best gift you can give anyone, including yourself, after a getaway is your vibrant, relaxed energy — it’s the gift that keeps on giving.